Week 6 Reflection:
“Masculintiy in a Spray Can”Teenagers nowadays are very conscious about their bodies. The pressure for tween boys to keep with with tween girl has always been serious. It is more intense now and literally being bombarded with marketers showing their products to help them look and smell better. Tween boys will add streaks to their hair and put on different body odor to feel superior to tween girls.
I agree with the last paragraph about how pathetic it is that this kid thinks his only chance at "getting a girl" is some chemical spray, but it seems to me that the girls he knows are probably manipulated by the same marketing forces at play to appreciate style over substance. Therefore in all likelihood they couldn't care less about his personality, beliefs and comportment and really would be attracted to someone who wears axe body spray over someone who doesn't.
As my comment for the mother, why aren’t the mothers doing any about their sons bathing themselves in these colognes and tell them that that they reek? If the scent literally turns their stomachs, then why do they allow their sons to leave the house smelling like a chemical weapon? This is where parent-kid communication comes to play. Why weren't they having a conversation about it the first time the boys wanted to have the body spray? They should talk to these boys that masking themselves with body odor is not the same as being clean, which is the primary objective, and that smelling like a can of AXE body spray does not make them attractive to women. The mother should be a reliable source for them to consult once it comes to what and what not attract woman. More importantly, the conversation should not be just about attracting or not attracting girls. It should be about taking good care of your body and personal hygiene is paramount than being attractive. Sometimes I wonder who is reinforcing the fact that these scents make them attractive to girls at school? When a man body odor is very strong, I would turn away from him no matter how attractive he is because my nose is sensitive to smell. It knocks me out. Therefore, if my son is wearing too much of anything, I’ll tell him right away because I do not want people running away from him. Being parents, we need to talk to our love ones of what and what not to do so they know. They are being bombarded by commercials very day so it is our job to steer them the right away, not the marketers, they just want to milk every single penny out of our pocket.
Week 7 Reflection
Running in the Shadows
There is nothing new about children in the streets. We often don’t see them in daylight because they have their special hideouts. The sad thing is that we have shelter for adults, not children. They've been a forgotten segment of the population for a long, long time. Most of the runaways in the story left unacceptable and dysfunctional home situations. My heart goes out to them, and I wish we have some way to give them a home for a while but that would be against the law because housing minors is illegal. They have no way to run to except the streets.
But leaving home because you don't want to do chores? This girl needs to grow up and learn how to take responsibilities. She is completely disconnected from real life. What does she think everyone else does every day -- sit on their backside? Only Mom does chores, not her? Wow.
What can we, as a society, do to help these kids? I don’t really have a good solution. Perhaps our government needs to stop spending billions of dollars on wars. Instead, they need to invest more in school and have social programs addressing strictly the issue of runaway kids. Right now, as our economy is on the brink of recession, families are torn apart because of parents losing their jobs, their houses, and eventually themselves. Kids are suffering big time. Our government should bring back jobs from outside and focus more on creating new jobs. Families are the foundations of a kid’s life.
And lastly, as individuals, I think we should have some tolerance when our paths cross with these children because sometimes the most you can do is to have an interaction where respect and value for life is conveyed. If one works in the social service sector in any capacity, know that you can only "protect" them when they are in care and when they are out there, they are on their own making their way in life as each of us to some extent must do. They can only access any lessons you may have taught them if you are respectful and if they can remember that you did care.
Week 9 Reflection
What is the role of technologies - cell phones, computers, etc. - in tween's lives?
We, as adults, use computers and cell phones for personal and technical purposes. For teens, computers and cell phones aren’t just tools, they’re emotional, cultural, and social links that connect them to the rest of the world. Technology is very crucial to their lives. It reflects an attachment and dependency that is far more intense than has traditionally been expressed by older generations. Their gadgets influence everything from friendships and leisure time to social status and self- confidence. This is a generation that grew up with the Internet at its fingertips. Most kids I know want and expect the latest and greatest technology and the ability to access the most current content. They want it and they need to have it no matter what: everything from interactive and sharing capabilities to social networks and free content sites, such as Facebook and YouTube. Even phones and computers are perceived as outlets for self-expression, and teens want fashionable, customizable devices. In contrast, traditional media, such as broadcast television, is less appealing to these young consumers.
Parents, meanwhile, struggle to balance their children’s desire for technology with their own concerns
over safety and costs, particularly in today’s economy. My sister equipped her 10 year-old son with
an Iphone when she only had a free cell phone herself. This says something about parents encouraging their kids and not wanting to say no to their request. May be parents do not want to their kids to be upset at them leading them to reject the parents in their daily lives. This is very dangerous because parents are spoiling their kids.
Companies took advantage of this trend and tap into the influence and consumer strength of teens and satisfy their parents by providing affordable, customizable devices that are highly functional and also sleek and stylish. Teens in particular want the latest “styles” in technology—sometimes, • even if it means emphasizing form over function. They accessorize their gadgets, and the color, shape, and style of their devices are critical to their self-expression. This is especially true for more mobile devices, such as cell phones and MP3 players, as these are what they are most often seen using outside the home.
Spring Break Reading
Mary Pearson on What YA is and isn'tMy personal experience with what books are considered YA and what not is when I did my fiction and non-fiction for this class. The first criteria I used when selecting my titles is the reading level. Well, I had a really hard time looking for such books because they are scattered around. Some of the books I thought would be appropriate for age 8-12 but indeed they are labeled “children” books. The contents are sure written for tweens but the illustrations fall into “children” category. There are some wonderful books being published for the teen reader now--brilliantly written, full of good ideas, complex characters, and mindful treatments of tough issues. There are also books that many of us call crack-fic, over-the-top situations, unbelievable characters, dialogue that hearkens back to Buffy's best seasons.
I see people railing against the bad example that Twilight sets, but I know if I'd read that book at thirteen, I would have adored it. Well, come to think of it, at thirteen I was glomming down a lot of those early bodice rippers, with heroes pretty much like Edward Cullen for wooden stalkeryness, they just didn't sparkle. Teens very often see different things in books than we old-time readers see. They're having fun with the equivalent of books (and comics) that our teachers and parents dismissed as trash.
I like to read YA books when I'm emotionally down or physically tired just because the odds of them being anxiety-inducing (for a jaded 33-year-old) are lower than for a run-of-the-mill book off the general shelves. It's not a sure bet, but a safer one than many.
And while some books now sold as YA/teenage would once have counted as adult, others would simply have counted as children's. What I typically see in a bookshop is an area marked 'Children's', in which the shelves are divided into sections marked, say, 5-7, 8-12, and teenage. I see no problem with using these classifications to direct readers to the kind of book they are likely to like, though of course intelligent children should realise that some books worth reading will be found outside 'their own' section.
It isn't when adult are trying to lure children into offline meetings, that is called sexual exploitation or luring by a sexual predator. But sometimes when a minor starts a cyberbullying campaign it involves sexual predators who are intrigued by the sexual harassment or even ads posted by the cyberbullying offering up the victim for sex.
When schools try and get involved by disciplining the student for cyberbullying actions that took place off-campus and outside of school hours, they are often sued for exceeding their authority and violating the student's free speech right. They also, often lose. Schools can be very effective brokers in working with the parents to stop and remedy cyberbullying situations. They can also educate the students on cyberethics and the law. If schools are creative, they can sometimes avoid the claim that their actions exceeded their legal authority for off-campus cyberbullying actions. We recommend that a provision is added to the school's acceptable use policy reserving the right to discipline the student for actions taken off-campus if they are intended to have an effect on a student or they adversely affect the safety and well-being of student while in school. This makes it a contractual, not a constitutional, issue.
Who knows why kids do anything? When it comes to cyberbullying, they are often motivated by anger, revenge or frustration. Sometimes they do it for entertainment or because they are bored and have too much time on their hands and too many tech toys available to them. Many do it for laughs or to get a reaction. Some do it by accident, and either send a message to the wrong recipient or didn't think before they did something. The Power-hungry do it to torment others and for their ego. Revenge of the nerd may start out defending themselves from traditional bullying only to find that they enjoy being the tough guy or gal. Mean girls do it to help bolster or remind people of their own social standing. And some think they are righting wrong and standing up for others.
Because their motives differ, the solutions and responses to each type of cyberbullying incident has to differ too. Unfortunately, there is no "one size fits all" when cyberbullying is concerned. Only two of the types of cyberbullies have something in common with the traditional schoolyard bully. Experts who understand schoolyard bullying often misunderstand cyberbullying, thinking it is just another method of bullying. But the motives and the nature of cybercommunications, as well as the demographic and profile of a cyberbully differ from their offline counterpart
Education can help considerably in preventing and dealing with the consequences of cyberbullying. The first place to begin an education campaign is with the kids and teens themselves. We need to address ways they can become inadvertent cyberbullies, how to be accountable for their actions and not to stand by and allow bullying (in any form) to be acceptable. We need to teach them not to ignore the pain of others.
Teaching kids to “Take 5!” before responding to something they encounter online is a good place to start. Jokingly, we tell them to “Drop the Mouse! And step away from the computer and no one will get hurt!” We then encourage them to find ways to help them calm down. This may include doing yoga, or deep-breathing. It may include running, playing catch or shooting hoops. It may involve taking a bath, hugging a stuffed animal or talking on the phone with friends. Each child can find their own way of finding their center again. And if they do, they will often not become a cyberbully, even an inadvertent cyberbully. Teaching them the consequences of their actions, and that the real “Men in Black” may show up at their front door sometimes helps. Since many cyberbullying campaigns include some form of hacking or password or identity theft, serious laws are implicated. Law enforcement, including the FBI, might get involved in these cases.
But we need to recognize that few cyberbullying campaigns can succeed without the complacency and the often help of other kids. If we can help kids understand how much bullying hurts, how in many cases (unlike the children’s chant) words can hurt you, fewer may cooperate with the cyberbullies. They will think twice before forwarding a hurtful e-mail, or visiting a cyberbullying “vote for the fat girl” site, or allowing others to take videos or cell phone pictures of personal moments or compromising poses of others. Martin Luther King, Jr. once said that in the end we will remember not the words of our enemies, but the silence of our friends. We need to teach our children not to stand silently by while others are being tormented. While it is crucial that we teach them not to take matters into their own hands (and perhaps become a "vengeful angel" cyberbully themselves) they need to come to us. And if we expect them to trust us, we need to be worthy of that trust. (Read more about this at "Goldilocks and the cyberbullies...not too hot and not too cold," a guide for parents.)
And, in addition to not lending their efforts to continue the cyberbullying, if given an anonymous method of reporting cyberbullying Web sites, profiles and campaigns, kids can help put an end to cyberbullying entirely. School administration, community groups and even school policing staff can receive these anonymous tips and take action quickly when necessary to shut down the site, profile or stop the cyberbullying itself.
They can even let others know that they won’t allow cyberbullying, supporting the victim, making it clear that they won’t be used to torment others and that they care about the feelings of others is key.
We need to teach our children that silence, when others are being hurt, is not acceptable. If they don’t allow the cyberbullies to use them to embarrass or torment others, cyberbullying will quickly stop. It’s a tall task, but a noble goal. And in the end, our children will be safer online and offline. We will have helped create a generation of good cybercitizens, controlling the technology instead of being controlled by it.”
Week 11 Reflection
Week 10 Reflection
Chapter Cyberbullying (Totally Wired)
http://stopcyberbullying.orgThis is a very interesting website that I found on the web about cyberbullying. Here is what it wrote about cyberbullying:
“Cyberbullying" is when a child, preteen or teen is tormented, threatened, harassed, humiliated, embarrassed or otherwise targeted by another child, preteen or teen using the Internet, interactive and digital technologies or mobile phones. It has to have a minor on both sides, or at least have been instigated by a minor against another minor. Once adults become involved, it is plain and simple cyber-harassment or cyberstalking. Adult cyber-harassment or cyberstalking is NEVER called cyberbullying.It isn't when adult are trying to lure children into offline meetings, that is called sexual exploitation or luring by a sexual predator. But sometimes when a minor starts a cyberbullying campaign it involves sexual predators who are intrigued by the sexual harassment or even ads posted by the cyberbullying offering up the victim for sex.
When schools try and get involved by disciplining the student for cyberbullying actions that took place off-campus and outside of school hours, they are often sued for exceeding their authority and violating the student's free speech right. They also, often lose. Schools can be very effective brokers in working with the parents to stop and remedy cyberbullying situations. They can also educate the students on cyberethics and the law. If schools are creative, they can sometimes avoid the claim that their actions exceeded their legal authority for off-campus cyberbullying actions. We recommend that a provision is added to the school's acceptable use policy reserving the right to discipline the student for actions taken off-campus if they are intended to have an effect on a student or they adversely affect the safety and well-being of student while in school. This makes it a contractual, not a constitutional, issue.
Who knows why kids do anything? When it comes to cyberbullying, they are often motivated by anger, revenge or frustration. Sometimes they do it for entertainment or because they are bored and have too much time on their hands and too many tech toys available to them. Many do it for laughs or to get a reaction. Some do it by accident, and either send a message to the wrong recipient or didn't think before they did something. The Power-hungry do it to torment others and for their ego. Revenge of the nerd may start out defending themselves from traditional bullying only to find that they enjoy being the tough guy or gal. Mean girls do it to help bolster or remind people of their own social standing. And some think they are righting wrong and standing up for others.
Because their motives differ, the solutions and responses to each type of cyberbullying incident has to differ too. Unfortunately, there is no "one size fits all" when cyberbullying is concerned. Only two of the types of cyberbullies have something in common with the traditional schoolyard bully. Experts who understand schoolyard bullying often misunderstand cyberbullying, thinking it is just another method of bullying. But the motives and the nature of cybercommunications, as well as the demographic and profile of a cyberbully differ from their offline counterpart
Education can help considerably in preventing and dealing with the consequences of cyberbullying. The first place to begin an education campaign is with the kids and teens themselves. We need to address ways they can become inadvertent cyberbullies, how to be accountable for their actions and not to stand by and allow bullying (in any form) to be acceptable. We need to teach them not to ignore the pain of others.
Teaching kids to “Take 5!” before responding to something they encounter online is a good place to start. Jokingly, we tell them to “Drop the Mouse! And step away from the computer and no one will get hurt!” We then encourage them to find ways to help them calm down. This may include doing yoga, or deep-breathing. It may include running, playing catch or shooting hoops. It may involve taking a bath, hugging a stuffed animal or talking on the phone with friends. Each child can find their own way of finding their center again. And if they do, they will often not become a cyberbully, even an inadvertent cyberbully. Teaching them the consequences of their actions, and that the real “Men in Black” may show up at their front door sometimes helps. Since many cyberbullying campaigns include some form of hacking or password or identity theft, serious laws are implicated. Law enforcement, including the FBI, might get involved in these cases.
But we need to recognize that few cyberbullying campaigns can succeed without the complacency and the often help of other kids. If we can help kids understand how much bullying hurts, how in many cases (unlike the children’s chant) words can hurt you, fewer may cooperate with the cyberbullies. They will think twice before forwarding a hurtful e-mail, or visiting a cyberbullying “vote for the fat girl” site, or allowing others to take videos or cell phone pictures of personal moments or compromising poses of others. Martin Luther King, Jr. once said that in the end we will remember not the words of our enemies, but the silence of our friends. We need to teach our children not to stand silently by while others are being tormented. While it is crucial that we teach them not to take matters into their own hands (and perhaps become a "vengeful angel" cyberbully themselves) they need to come to us. And if we expect them to trust us, we need to be worthy of that trust. (Read more about this at "Goldilocks and the cyberbullies...not too hot and not too cold," a guide for parents.)
And, in addition to not lending their efforts to continue the cyberbullying, if given an anonymous method of reporting cyberbullying Web sites, profiles and campaigns, kids can help put an end to cyberbullying entirely. School administration, community groups and even school policing staff can receive these anonymous tips and take action quickly when necessary to shut down the site, profile or stop the cyberbullying itself.
They can even let others know that they won’t allow cyberbullying, supporting the victim, making it clear that they won’t be used to torment others and that they care about the feelings of others is key.
We need to teach our children that silence, when others are being hurt, is not acceptable. If they don’t allow the cyberbullies to use them to embarrass or torment others, cyberbullying will quickly stop. It’s a tall task, but a noble goal. And in the end, our children will be safer online and offline. We will have helped create a generation of good cybercitizens, controlling the technology instead of being controlled by it.”
Week 11 Reflection
What are the media messages tweens are receiving from watching Disney and Nickelodeon?
TV for Tween by Chris Wagner
“Tweens are in a stage of their lives where they’re no longer beginning to think of themselves as kids. They have not yet reached full-fledged adolescence, but they are beginning to test their independence and find their individuality. Gary Marsh, the Disney Channel’s president for entertainment says, “[Tweens] are trapped between the cocoon and comfort of being a child, and the rebellion and independence they want as a teenager. So your goal is trying to satisfy all those needs that kids have.” Though differing opinions exist, cable companies generally categorize the tween demographic as being between 9 and 14 years old. The shows that connect best are those whose main characters fall in the same age group as their tween audience and deal with real-life situations that tweens can relate to, usually with a humorous twist. In an article for USA Today, Gary Levin reports, “Shows are imbued with moral messages, friendship and preteen angst, which are sugarcoated with comedy.” Episodes often revolve around problems faced with friends, in school or with parents.
The last several years have seen hits such as Lizzie McGuire and That’s So Raven. Lizzie McGuire launched the career of Hilary Duff, while That’s So Raven, starring Raven-Symone of The Cosby Show fame, has gone on to become the longest-running Disney Channel original series to date. Disney brought even more attention to the marketability of this genre in early 2006 with the made-for-TV movie High School Musical, which has been an immense success. The success of HSM spawned an entire franchise that includes books, CDs, live shows and more. The soundtrack to High School Musical sat atop the Billboard charts for several weeks and was the highest-selling CD release of 2006 across all categories. The cable networks realize that a lot more money can be made by franchising characters or shows and creating products for their hit TV shows that move beyond the small screen. One of the keys to this success is getting tweens to interact with the programming. Disney encouraged viewers to host parties during additional airings of HSM that featured the words to songs across the bottom of the screen—karaoke style—and the opportunity to learn the dance moves step-by step, taught by the actors and actresses themselves. Nickelodeon will begin airing the new show iCarly this fall. Viewers will have the opportunity to contribute to the show by sending in videos of themselves that may air during the program.
Disney is genius in cross-marketing, often casting young teens that have the potential to record and sell music as well. The Hannah Montana franchise released a top-selling CD while the show was still in its first season. Nickelodeon’s newest hit, The Naked Brothers Band, is an attempt at jumping on this bandwagon. The show’s Web site features music videos and mp3s, and Nickelodeon plans to release a CD. As they did with HSM, Disney casts their most popular characters in made-for-TV movies knowing that these characters’ loyal fan bases are likely to watch. Examples of this are the movie Cadet Kelly, starring Hilary Duff and Christy Carlson Romano (Even Stevens) and The Cheetah Girls movies, which feature Raven-Symone.
Parents often assume that shows on these kid-friendly networks are safe for their young children. However, as the networks begin to “grow up” and focus on tween fair, parents might want to start paying attention. The tween years are an especially impressionable time and it’s important that parents know what messages tweens are receiving from the shows they watch. As writers tap into the “real-life” situations of 14-year-olds for new shows and episodes, parents need to be aware of the content of these shows to determine if it is appropriate for a nine-year-old (who falls in the same targeted demographic) to be watching. Generally speaking, the tween shows on Nickelodeon and Disney are wholesome, light-hearted fun. This doesn’t mean however, that parents should get a free-pass at monitoring their tweens TV viewing habits. These shows offer glimpses into the everyday lives of tweens, and as such can be a valuable tool to learn more about their interests, struggles, friendships and family dynamics. Also, tweens are at the perfect age to begin learning media discernment. If they’re ready to begin watching shows that deal with “real-life” situations, then parents should be helping them learn what the Bible has to say about these circumstances as well.
Unlike major networks that air their shows once a week, tween shows often air numerous episodes several times in a single week. Combine this with the franchising of shows beyond the television screen and the proliferation of using popular stars in music videos, movies, advertisements and more, and tweens have the opportunity to see or hear their favorite stars regularly. They can also visit the Web sites of their favorite show or young actor/actress. Unfortunately, today’s children and early teens are not immune to our celebrity-driven culture. Young and impressionable tweens can easily become obsessed with their favorite star and look to them as a role model. It’s important for parents to discuss what a proper role model is with their tweens and what a biblical role model looks like. Girls, especially, will look to TV characters for the latest fashion trends. Are you comfortable with your daughter wearing the outfits they see on TV? Take the opportunity to promote modesty. Youth workers could address the sin of idolatry and could help students explore the difference between a healthy affection and an unhealthy obsession. Parents must have boundaries in place for their tweens, limiting their TV viewing and their access to other forms of media and encouraging other activities.
As children grow up, so will their television shows. Will cable networks be resigned to knowing that their targeted audience will eventually move on to more mature fare, or will they attempt to push the envelope of tween programming and grow older with them? Only time will tell. Regardless, make yourself aware of the shows your tween is watching and help them begin to form healthy media habits at an early age, and as such can be a valuable tool to learn more about their interests, struggles, friendships and family dynamics. Also, tweens are at the perfect age to begin learning media discernment. If they’re ready to begin watching shows that deal with “real-life” situations, then parents should be helping them learn what the Bible has to say about these circumstances as well.”
Week 13
Reflections: This is to get you thinking about programming using social media and activism, as well as tweens passions.
Tween and teens are very much dependent on social media nowadays than ever before. How would they react if you banned Facebook or MySpace? Of course, many would be outraged. If middle-schools decide to ban these social media, I think kids would feel relieved and have more time to do other things. But make no mistake about it, kids wouldn’t necessarily benefit as a whole from schools, school districts, or parents banning them from Facebook and other social media sites. Some kids are using it to do homework with their friends, to start or be a part of online campaigns dealing with issues they believe in, and are the younger generation making their voices heard in their own communities.
According to YALSA “social media has many positive uses in schools and libraries. It provides an ideal environment for teens to share what they are learning or to build something together online. The nature of the medium allows teens to receive feedback from librarians, teachers, peers, parents, and others. Social media helps to create a sense of community (as do the physical library and school) and in this way are already aligned with the services and programs at the library and school”.
Children in middle-school and high-school are at the age where they are growing into the adult they will become. They are recognizing what they believe in, what they are passionate about, and they are building the foundation that they will later be used by them to decide what line of work they want to be in in the future. Some of these children may have a real passion for computers and the use of the internet. They may take what they learn through social media and use it to implement in their own lives. Therefore, library can need to offer opportunities for youth to hang out, mess around and geek out in analog form. The programs need to support messing around with social media using technology. Here are some of the programs, from YALSA, that library can offer to tweens and teen:
- A librarian in a public library works with teens to teach them how to create videos. In the process teens learn media literacy skills while gaining insight into video creation and publishing. The teens post their videos on YouTube and have the opportunity to talk about how to be safe while in the YouTube environment.
- A public library creates apps that teens can use on their own Facebook pages. The apps provide teens with tools they can use to search for information for homework projects, find library events, and collect resources for projects and leisure reading. Teens get to use high-quality tools while working within an environment in which they are comfortable.
- A high school library creates a website for members of the school community to access resources and connect with each other.
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- In the library, teens learn to use Glogster to create posters that highlight the personalities of their favorite book or movie characters. While creating the Glog, the teens have opportunities to talk about issues related to the copyright of images, music, and video as they add these formats to their posters.
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